My Man

Sejak September 2013 lalu, aku memulai hubungan asmara dengan seorang pria. Hubunganku dengannya sangat menyenangkan. Pria ini memiliki segala hal yang tak pernah terfikirkan olehku sebelumnya.

Pertama, he is cute. Terlebih saat dia mau memotong dan merapikan rambutnya. 

Dia juga pintar. Aku tidak pernah melihatnya membaca atau menonton berita. Tapi, he always has ideas to all kind of issues yang aku bawa dalam setiap perbincangan kita berdua. Tidak hanya mengenai hal-hal yang terjadi secara umum atau menyangkut isu-isu sosial saja. Dia bahkan juga tau mengenai cara memasak dan cara mengobati yang baik dan benar. Proses menstruasi pada wanita pun juga tau. Dia, bagiku, seperti living google. Tau apa aja deh ga ngerti lagi. 

Selain pintar, bagiku, dia seperti guru. Aku banyak belajar dari dia. Selama menjalani hibungan ini, dia sudah banyak mengajariku tentang lika-liku kehidupan. Tepatnya, bagaimana aku harus menghadapi setiap masalah. Usia yang terpaut empat tahun membuatku banyak belajar dari kehidupannya.

Dia adalah pribadi yang dapat menggandengku, menuntunku, membimbingku, mengimamiku, memberikan contoh, dan mengarahkanku. Sosok yang dapat mengalahkan ego dan sifat dominanku. 

Pernah kita berdua iseng ngaji bareng. Tidak kusangka, dia lebih hebat mengaji dari pada aku. Dari situ, hatiku sudah semakin mantap padanya.

Hubungan ini terasa membawa banyak sekali hal positif, santai dengan keadaan kita yang LDR. Meski aku sering ngerengek, tapi kita juga tidak langsung serta merta terbawa emosi untuk langsung mengatur jadwal untuk bertemu. Dalam setahun mungkin kita hanya bisa bertemu empat kali. Itu pun paling lama dua hari dan pasti karena ada keperluan keluarga. Makanya, aku bilang kita santai. 

Dibalik hal-hal positif tersebut, ada juga hal-hal yang aku rasa berbeda dengan apa yang kumau. Still, hal-hal tersebut masih dalam batas tolerir dan masih bisa aku terima.

and this man also leads me to the altar soon. and hopefully, to jannah as well. insya Allah.

I love you.

Happy Anniversary. Always be a good kind of Duta Ajie Gumara. xxx


The Proposal

Dear everyone,
Hello! Been a while not blogging. Maybe, you’ve just missed everyone’s birthday. :D For sure, you’ve also missed my birthday last July. It was just another birthday though. Nothing was so special at the moment.

Birthdays, eid mubarak, thesis final submission, tears, fights, hugs, laughs are things that you have missed about. A year that has been totally dramatic.

But, the only thing that got my full attention was the moment when my man declared in very different way of saying that he was being serious with me. Every man is saying they are serious with their relationships. But, the problem is the ‘serious’ word is only a thing. Seriously, i mean, i am serious that ‘serious’ does not have any meaning when it is not followed by serious action.

Now, the question is not again whether or not he is serious to your relationship. The question should be whether or not he will prove it.

And i have experienced it myself. It felt sooo different, at the first time we dated in September 2013, when he said to me he was serious with me that he wanted to be with me for the rest of his life. I was happy at the moment. You know, it was like, i was blessed and lucky to get a responsible man who was brave enough to step into an adult relationship. While me was still being in doubt with my adolesence.

Yes, it was blowing my mind at the first time i heard that serious kind of thing.

But somehow, when minutes went to hours, days went to months, and months went to a year, our relationship seemed going nowhere. Sure, he brought his family to my home. But none of them even spoke about that ‘serious thing’. Oh my god. It was confusing… i just could not wait and guess further how we might end up.

All of these confusing matters were running away until he told me this…

(Here i’m gonna tell you from the beginning.)

This moment happened a day after i got hired by one of MNCs as a secretary in Jakarta. He, Duta Ajie Gumara, phoned me in the afternoon. And here’s the dialogue:

Duta: kamu bulan Februari di rumah atau di Jakarta?

Me: kalau kamu mau aku di rumah, ya aku pulang. tapi kalau weekend yah… secara aku bakal udah mulai kerja.

Duta: oh gitu ya… kalau tanggal 7 atau tanggal 14 kamu mau pilih yang mana? Kalo tangga 7, papa baru pulang dari Kalimantan sih, jadi agak buru-buru kalo tanggal segitu.

Me: loh kamu mau ngapain emangnya?

Duta: duta sama keluarga duta mau ke rumah kamu lagi, duta mau ngelamar kamu.

The world broke into pieces, my hearts melted away, i was suddenly deaf-and-mute. I have lost my words to speak. I even did not feel what i was feeling. I was happy, scared, flattered, sad, angry, i didn’t know what it was. Until i literally dropped my tears for a second and started to speak again…

Me: kamu serius?

Duta: iya aku serius.

Guys, that is what i am talking about! A serious word turned into a serious action. :’)

He proved it.

Pheeeeeew! So i know right now why those girls are crying when their men are down on their knees.


You can guess for yourself how happy i was.

And then, it still went so smooth until the D-day which was in Saturday, February 14th 2015.

In our tradition, lamaran is held in a girl’s house. The family of the man comes to the girl’s house with bringing some hantaran. The process of putting the ring on our fingers are done with the help of our mothers. So, his mom put the ring on my finger, and my mother did the same to my fiancé’s. After this process had already done. I remember that we were hugging and crying to each other. Alhamdulillah, i was blessed. :’)

After that, we got a serious conversation together talking about the date when the wedding would be held.
It is also one of the series in lamaran thing by the way, make an agreement for the wedding date. I love this part. ❤

So here i am, typing it with the same feelings that are stuck still in my mind and my heart. A moment to remember.

Anyways, back to the serious serious serious things. Seemingly i have been writing serious things here and there a lot today. lol
Don’t worry guys, everything will be more serious at the right time, by the way. Haha

I’m gonna catch you up again soon after i have done my thesis defense on friday, October 3rd 2015. Yes! I will have my graduating paper exam in three weeks now. Wish me luck! May Allah ease my final exam. Amin.

Oh! You wonder when my wedding will be held? Keep scrolling!!!

See ya! xxx

Ethical Attempts Toward People Maintain PR Reputation Well

What do you think the PR profession could do to improve the seemingly negative opinions that journalists and general public have about PR profession?

Public relations is the way of company, institution, or organization to establish and maintain a good relation with the media, stakeholders, employees, and societies in order to create a mutual understanding. A good organization must have a good PR as well. Therefore, PR is necessary. It is the only option for companies mandated to engage with wide-range of people, and conduct a communicative approach with them.

By this far, PR has been getting positive appreciation from the people towards its undertakings for the company. Yet, negative perception among societies about this profession is uninevitable. For this reason, they, as PR managers should reduce these opinions, or at least uphold this issue to not growing bigger. They can really remove it because positive-negative opinions should live together and cannot be really gone except the company has found its end.

There are many ways to control public opinion. One of them is to keep holding on the company’s ethical standards. Eventhough, there are lots of buzzes deployed outside of the company, PR managers should be able to keep focus on what they do ethically. As long as they can keep up with ethical manners, the bad opinions about a thing will reduce or be gone for itself. These standards are being respectful, honest, independent, loyal, fair, and expert. These are explained as follows:

The most essential standard is being respectful. PR managers should respect communities around the company. The decision should be considered based on public – in a manner that does not jeopardize company and not create a conflict with public interest, public dignity, and public rights. Thus, the company runs as if it works from the people to people. They just need to remember that company’s reputation is held by the public power of opinions.

Secondly, PR managers are human beings. To be a good human being, a person should not lie to each other. PR managers should be transparant in sharing what is really happening and should not mislead information. It does not have to be very open with the public – there should be a confidential information,  yet they should at least give correct and quick responses by excusing, justifying, condoling, relabelling or denying – as long as it does not put people’s lives at risks.

Thirdly, PR should be independent. Company should be able to execute large programs. Thus, the company should do practices and conduct pseudo-events in order to prepare them to any possible things that might happen during the real process. PR managers also have to understand the complexity of making good relationships with people. They shoud be dynamic and in-depth in making connections with them. For instance, PR managers want to deal with media. They should know about the theory of Agenda-Setting which proposes a corellation between media and public, stating that an issues published based on the same interest between media and public. For this reason, PR managers should monitor what kind of issues growing in public which might be newsworthy and deal with that by doing a good communicative approach.

Fourtly, loyalty to a brand can strengthen the power of PR managers. PR managers may know what public likes, dislikes, hates, prefers, however they are not sufficient if they cannot represent the goodwill of the product. It is important to know both, what people interests and how good the product is. Hence, as making decision or events, PR managers have understood about the situation and minimize the critics that might rise caused by a misleading understanding.

Fifthly, like the first and the third ethical standard, fairness and expert have to be embodied on PR managers. As a company which was built in the middle of society, all the decision-makings should be considered in a fair way, at least find a win-win solution. Doing so, PR managers should have capability in understanding what public needs as well as the what the company wants.

In a nutshell, inadequate opinions about PR profession will be easily decreased if the PR managers do all attempts ethically. PR managers are expected to not disadvantage other people (including company’s stakeholders, media, government, employees and society). All the decisions and programs should be beneficial for both, people and company. They should be smart in doing heavy programs in accordance with company’s reputation as well as in managing issues and crises, and able to build a good communication with them. They should comprehend about the product and the company very well so that they will be easily accepted in society. Also, PR managers should be wise to share which information that people want to have in an accurate way. Concequently, more polite manner conducted towards people, less bad assumption appears from the people.

Back to Live A Life


It’s been a while not sharing here. i had been so busy seeking schools, and preparing all requirements to study abroad. You might be thinking now that i am typing in another land, another space, another country. Well, i am still in our adorable motherland, Indonesia, guys. :)

It is a long story to tell such a journey like mine. Yet, it’ll be cool to share a life-lesson to all of my friends.

Guys, that was for the very first time. Things would not work out the way they were supposed to for me. What i want should be what i should have. But, i did not know why it was so difficult to just enroll to one of those universities. Maybe, it was not the right time to go or it was me who was not credible. That got me second-guessing myself. Doubt and discouraged. The heart was so exhausted as well as my physical strength.

I was not drowning too deep to this kind of problem though. i still had a plan B to take. Even though, everyone recognizes that the plan B is not as good as the plan A. Still, the plan B must be second best. So, here i am. I’m taking master’s degree in such a cool school in communication in Jakarta. Man, i love communication. Finally, i have found that this major fits me so perfectly. I love this school too. A thing that i love the most is doing an international examination to plan a campaign/strategy under a course named Strategic Issues Management under Edith Cowan University supervision. Cool, right? things that i had not had in my previous college.

Uh.. but that’s not the point of telling the life-lesson. What i am going to say is that you are allowed to be frowned once you get failed but don’t be too under. Things won’t work out does not mean you get out but it’s just a step closer to an answer other things going to turn out. It always works that way. Life must go on and every end is a new beginning.

Head up, plan up, live up.

So, are you willing to be courageous enough to take it and see what’s possible?

Lots of love,


Soulmate Is Definetely for Everyone

Sticking with an old cliche that says “soulmate does not go anywhere” is right. Everyone has destined to have someone to love to each other. The soulmate will come exactly at the right time, on the right moment, and at the right place. All that matters is that you should believe it.

I almost gave up on chasing up a true love, though. Yet, the other side of me said that “the levee will break if it keeps on raining”. So, i believed that i would reap in due season. I would have the one that i had been thinking of. The one who i gave my love for. The one who i wish i shared a house with. I would. However, what can human do? We can only have a plan, God sets everything up.

Guess what now! Do i get all those things i wanted? I bet you expect the same with me, but the fact is that i got the other one. Other one is way much better. He came at the moment that was so right. The time when i was in stage of heavy emotion that i couldnt bear alone. Thanks, God. He is mature and helpful, and handsome, and smart, clean, religious, affective, loyal, protective, responsible, honest, and freakingly has an eye to detail. Shit! Things i hate about him are he is a selfish lion, stubborn, a big head with unarguable arguments. And always own the debate big time. Argh, and i love him so much. Yeaha, the last part should be a good one. Haha
What i am going to say is that those who you think they are good for you sometimes show the opposite, and it also goes the other way around. Um… Clear to say, our wishes won’t always be true, yet better things will always be.

After, been going through life so that long, finally i find myself taken. Haha gross. But that is true, im taken, arent i? So um.. Definitely, soulmate is for everyone, people! Just wait for your time to come!

Um… Another thing is that after you find the love of your life, love him passionately. Surely he comes up to your life for a reason. He is a gift. But, if you find yourself unhappy, this isnt because your love hurts you, it’s because of happiness aint a destination, it should always be a journey. Dont you ever think that after getting what you want, happiness will follow. It’s no. So, Brace yourself, and dont be discouraged, love seekers!

Lots of love, Lita.

The Sun Always Shines

Looking so good from where i stand here right now. This is a proof of God’s creation. Of how God incredibly sets up this universe for us. I’m looking forward to seeing another beauty of my life to come. another beauty of life for each one of you, too. Your future is bright, your future is good. The bottom line is believe.

Sincerely, stay positive.


Home is where I can eat a lot

Home is where I can cry a lot

Home is where I can sleep too much

Home is where I can hope too much

Home is where I can laugh too loud

Home is where I can sing too loud

Home is where I can share everything to my parents

Home is where I can discuss everything with my parents

Home, why I keep returning?

Home, why I look ugly?

Home, why I feel lazy?

Home, why I plant hopes?

Home, why always exciting?